Friday, July 17, 2009

Romance Ruined

So I'm pretty annoyed with the portrayal of "love" in our culture. I'm sick of the stupid Disney movies where the princess acts like a silly little filmsy nothing of a woman, and only has to look pretty and sing some tunes, when BAM! Her prince charming comes along. I'm sick of the damsel in distress movies, the children who decide that they must have a relationship with a person of the opposite sex at 4, the parents who encourage it, and the stupidness of thinking that being single is a curse.

Someone came up to me the other day and was like, "Do you have a man in your life? Cause I mean, it's good to marry young so that you have your life to spend with another person and work out your problems together?" Well thank-you VERY much sir for pointing out how little faith you have in me to handle my OWN problems. I mean, seriously! Sometimes, God uses single people to do things that married people cannot do, and who's to say that maybe God's using my singleness right now to help me do stuff that I couldn't do as a wife. Give me a little credit here, okay? I don't need to be rescued or saved or swept off my feet and I especially don't need to pop out babies anytime soon. I am NINETEEN years old for Pete's sake!

And you know what? I don't think that romance works quite the way the movies show it to. I mean, if some girl was going around singing all by herself in the middle of a secluded forest or what not, I might just think she was a little bit nuts. What happened to relationships where the man liked the woman because of her character? Because she was the person that he could be a better person with than without? Whose to say that a girl with a compassionate heart and independent mind isn't just as attractive as a beauty queen?

I'm happy to be single, at least, most of the time. Sometimes it sucks. But God's teaching me to be patient and rely on Him to provide. I really need to clear my head of all these preconceptions that marriage is a necessary step in life, cause it's really not. Women work today and we don't NEED to get married if we don't want to. I'll get as much love from God and my friends and I would from a husband. Then again, maybe God does have someone for me, in which case, I can't wait to meet him.

But in the meantime, I'm just going to be me. And I kind of like that.


1 comment:

  1. PREACH IT SISTAH! what a great post. i really struggled with that in university though... no so much hunting for a woman to save, but just feeling like i needed to be liked by someone romantically to feel like i had any worth. BUT God is great and freed me from that. and then came charlo.


    she is my princess charming.

    HA. did you know the word 'helper' that is used in Genesis to describe the woman is actually the same word that is used in the psalm that says "I lift my eyes up, where does my help come from?"... that word is a really strong kind of helper. a crucial rescue, not a weak opressed helper we sometimes limit women in the church to be. sweet eh?


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